Thursday, April 23

"YOU ARE HUGE!"

Why, oh why does the weirdness in people come out when you are pregnant? I mean seriously, do people lose all control of their mouth and say the things you would NEVER say to a NON-preggo person? It's like trying to give double fudge brownies to someone on a diet! You just don't do it! R-E-S-P-E-C-T. COME ON PEOPLE!
I submit the answer is a resounding YES.
And I have examples. Keep in mind that I am 17 weeks pregnant right now. Happy as a lark. Barely gained any weight. (4 lbs in 4 months!) Clothes all still fit (for the most part, minus the
busting pants, but that is another blog for another time…) All things going well. Apparently that means people can say things like this:

A few weeks ago, somewhere in between week 13 and 14 of baby growing, I was at church. A lady that I know quite well (and love dearly!) turned around to me. After chit-chatting about the church service, how things are going, work, etc, she says with a circular motion “Your face…It looks fuller…But its OK! You are pregnant!”

Uh, ummm, uhhhhh, ooooookay…Thank you?!?!
Seriously at a loss for words. Still am really


And was the circular motion pointed directly around my face necessary? Ugh.
Does anyone EVER want to hear that their face looks fuller? No.

Should anyone EVER say that to ANYONE regardless of their child growing or lack there of?! Uh, No. Thankyouverymuchkindsir…

Secondly: (oh you thought that was it? No No No. I am not even halfway thru with pregnancy. Many more moments I am sure will arise.)

This past week while leaving church, I see a lady (what is it with the church ladies?!) I have gotten to know a bit over the past few months. Super sweet chick with great kiddos that are way fun to play with. While standing there talking she says “You look like you are carrying like it is a girl.” (circular motion pointed at the belly region...)

My exact words were AM I SHOWING??!! When did that happen?! The baby is like 5 ounces right now. I didn’t think I was 'carrying' anything, really, relatively speaking that is!”

(Oops. Should I have said all of that? WHAT IS WITH THE POINTING AND CIRCLES!?!?)
I am a firm believer that people just want their input on your pregnancy, which i am, for the most part, OK with. If you want to guess it is a girl, say “I THINK YOU ARE HAVING A GIRL!” Sheesh. So funny these folks. (And for the record, what is with the belly touching when there is no belly?!!? you are THAT close to my boobs people...)

It is kinda like telling someone who is 8 months pregnant that they are HUGE. Thank you?!!? That is so SWEET?!?! Oh really?!?! AM I HUGE?! AM I?!?!

Oh the joys.

(and that is my tangent for the day.)

so guesses?! Who thinks it is a boy? Who thinks a girl? Only 3 more weeks till we find out and i love the guessing!
I feel like i have been pregnant for 10 years...

130 comments:

Jessica said...

Get used to it sister-it sucks but ppl butt in terribly and constantly!

I remember with my first pregnancy my own Aunt told me my face was fat. OK maybe she said 'full' but she might as well have said fat!

I can't believe you aren't really showing yet lucky! I have only gained 1 lb and I am 22 Weeks and even wearing baggy t-shirts you can see my bump! Then again I guess it is probably b/c I am on numero dos!

Anyway. I feel your pain :D

Tracy P. said...

Jenna, you are cracking me up! I love your colorful words.

I would have to look at you to know whether I think you're having a boy or a girl. Ha! I'm teasing.

I'm a believer in the heart rate indicator. My son was 140 all the time, and my daughter was 160. Our kids were surprises, but the 160 was the one thing that made me think there might be some femininity about to grace my world full of boys (all nephews and a big brother). Sure enough!

Rocksee said...

and you are still early on.. I can't wait to hear the 8 month blogs..

Teddi said...

Nothing works to tell you the sex so don't listen to anyone. I had 4 girls (as you know) and carried them ALL different. High heart rate, low heart rate-down low, up high - it didn't matter. I once had a lady grab my chin and squeeze it. OK, get ready for this - if my chin indented with a line it was a girl because it stood for the v___a - if my chin did nothing, just stayed flat, it was a boy ( i have NO IDEA what that meant). She was 70 yr. old woman and she had NEVER been wrong - and she wasn't, I had Grant. So maybe try that 1--HA!! Wait till the comments if you have more then 2 kids - 3 is still acceptable but #4 and 5 for me were unacceptable to 75% of the population! I have heard it all! My favorite - do you know what to do to stop that (as they waved the hand motion over my stomach)!!

My personal prediction is you are gonna have a boy and Emily is going to have a girl and they will marry and live happily ever after - THE END

Ashley said...

Judging from church lady I think you are having a girl...

Hehe!!

Haven't experienced this myself but I've heard from friends all the weird things that people say.

Holli said...

Love your blog! Good luck on the pregnancy!

holly wynne said...

I love you.

joy deeann carson said...

oh loved those stories friend, i can just hear you telling them!!! lets do that fabric store outing this week- friday? last week didnt work for me and i cant remember if i told you- eek i have been multitasking not so well lately! and may I say.... EAT THE BROWNIE!!!!!

Pam said...

Jenna ...
I absolutely love your blog, enjoy reading it weekly ... kinda helps me know what's going on with you, Matt and Baby Cox.

I believe strongly with the Chinese Calendar that I sent to you . . . BOY ~ BOY ~ BOY!

Love you ..... Aunt Pam

Tania @ Larger Family Life said...

I think I must be the only person in the world who thinks it's nice for people to take time to stop and comment and show an interest. Am I the only one?!

Lisa said...

It gets worse, but here's my all time fav, from my stepdad, two days after I had my son: "So, I guess you're going to need to start working out now, to get back into shape, huh?" I could have died...
Stopping by from SITS.

La Belle Mere UK said...

Waaaah.... love your descriptions! The circle pointy action thingy is something I'm all to familiar with yet I've never had a baby!! Ha haaa! My friends mum did it to me and drew an imaginary circle round my face and said I looked to be "filling out". Faaaanks!

Happy SITS day.

Bec xxxx

Michelle (hometc) said...

Happy SITS day! You must be really close now or maybe he/she is already here?

MrsM said...

I have a personal crusade against the "guess how fat I am" baby shower game. Who is the genius that came up with THAT one?

Then again, I'm not a "sport" when people want to talk about my pregnancy or rub my belly or any of that. If they ask me how much weight I've gained I just look at them and say, "probably the same amount as you have".

I can be really mean when I'm pregnant....on the up side, there is absolutely no belly touching or weight discussion. =)

Yaya said...

Lol! I know this must get annoying, but remember the bottom line-you are so blessed to be carrying your child that the annoying outside factors are just white noise to what's really occurring in your life.

Robin said...

geezzzz......what ever happened to that old saying; If you can't say something nice don't say anything at all?
:-)
Anyway....
Congratulations! Wishing you and yours a beautiful life

Tammy Howard said...

I had sort of the opposite problem. Pregnant with my first I had pre eclampsia and was on bed rest at home. One of the things we needed to report to the doctor was any swelling in my face. Everyday I asked my husband if my face was swollen and he said my face was beautiful (because I married a pretty smart dude...) When my mom came to visit, she was immediately concerned because 'my face was so huge'. In my case it was something I NEEDED to hear and the hubs was so afraid of the delicate emotional state of hormonal me that he couldn't tell me. He swears he couldn't even see it.

It's All Good said...

church ladies know everything...

=)

Sarahlcc said...

Funny! And too true ~ I had two predictions, but not belly rubs from strangers. First 'prediction:' it's a girl. Second 'prediction:' it's a boy. Needless to say, I was a bit puzzled until the baby actually came.

TuTu's Bliss said...

It sucks no matter what. I gained 50lbs but it just didn't show. People would say things like "nine months? Are you sure?" and my personal favorite "umm is the baby okay? Are you sure?" Yeah I trust the ultrasound, the doctor, my body and the scale registering 50lbs more than some stranger at the grocery store trying to cop a feel. And if the baby wasn't "okay" wouldn't that be like pouring salt in an open wound? Some people have no filter. It doesn't end once the baby is out but it is all worth it and you will find funny and amusing ways to deal with it. I liked to rub their tummy back. Every pregnant woman should try it at least once. The expression is priceless!

JennyMac said...

Very funny! Love your sassy sense of humor for sure.

Elizabeth said...

Like Jessica said, get used to it, you've got a ways to go!! I remember all of those lovely emotions from when I was pregnant - and the personal space issue was a big one for me, especially because I worked in an office full of women who seemed to think it was their duty to touch my belly frequently. Fun stuff. Good luck!

Greedy said...

Wow people sure can be rude. I never thought of it that way thanks for the insight. SITS

Jan from the Sushi Bar said...

Popping in from SITS!

My oldest step-daughter is expecting her first and she has many of the same complaints.

Stephanie said...

Hi from SITS!

Oh, yes...the comments you get when pregnant. I see from your ticker that you're over 30 weeks, now... you probably have quite a few more stories to tell! ;-)

The belly touching and patting always drove me crazy, too! So uncomfortable!!

Laila Of Course! said...

OH My goodness, I KNOW what you mean about the stupid comment thing. Maybe it happens because people just have never been trained to know what they're supposed to do at such situations? I haven't been pregnant, lol, but my mom has a lot of chilren and as such people tend to... comment.
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-Laila
www.randomweavings.blogspot.com

Astrid said...

OMG! How true, how true!!!!

Who knows why people like commenting on pg women. I was such an emotional wreck during my two pregnancies...well...I wasn't happy. And I gained lots of weight. Sigh. Fortunately there is an end in sight! LOL!
Happy SITS day!

Kari said...

Over from SITS to say hello!

Your blog design is gorgeous. Good luck with the pregnancy.

Amanda @ Serenity Now said...

Visiting from SITS! Beautiful blog. :)

Haha...you'll just have to get used to it b/c they aren't going to stop. ;) My neighbor, who we know, but not really well, once reached OVER our fence to touch my stomach when I was pg with our first. Talk about boundaries!! ;)

Mommys Online Garage Sale said...

LOL, I was 118lbs when I conceived and at delivery 179lbs....OMG talk about an embarrassing pregnancy.

People are funny aren't they. Good luck with the pregnancy.

tammy said...

Happy Sits Day!!! :)

Love your post here. I'm thinking I'll send a link to my pregnant daughter in law. She'll get a kick out of your humor, since we've had the same conversation about people. LOL

Melinda said...

Love it! And oh, how I can relate even though it's been 9 years since my last one! Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but just wait until you HAVE the baby... then all those inappropriate comments are directed toward your CHILD! ("Oh, he looks so skinny!" "My, she's a baldie, isn't she?")Sheesh.

Stopping by from SITS ...Congrats on being today's featured blogger!

Moms Fighting Fat said...

LOL, on the bright side--at least you're not one of those poor women who you hear telling about how some person walked up and asked, "How many months are you along?" even though they're not pregnant. Can you imagine?

People, they're the worst--as Seinfeld would say. :-)

Congrats on being SITS Featured Blogger--I love your unique style! :-)

~ Sandy

href="http://www.momsfightingfat.com/2009/07/weightloss-setbacks-miss-piggy-is-in.html">Weightloss Setbacks: Miss Piggy in the House

Hugs ~ Sandy

"We're all on this journey towards living a healthier lifestyle together."

Rachel said...

Maybe they're just jealous of a super cute tiny bump!

Connie Weiss said...

What is it with the church ladies?

Happy SITS day!

B.o.B. said...

LOL! It's just not right. People are nuts.

Happy SITS Day!

blueviolet said...

Thank goodness you DO have a filter because those comments deserve an unfiltered response.

Rhonda said...

Great post! I admit to being a belly toucher. But only with people I know! lol

Enjoy your SITS day!!

Heather said...

Hey there! Congrats on being FB at SITS! I love this post and I so understand! The plus side?...you can respond with the most sarcastic comments and it is okay because "you are pregnant" Haha!

the planet of janet said...

yeah, some people have no gatekeeper on their mouths.

that's not helped by the fact that people think your body is public property when you're pregnant.

happy sits day!

glenna said...

Happy SITS DAY! The best is yet to come. :-)

Kasey said...

Stopping by from SITS. I really enjoyed reading this post because it brought back some memories for me. Get used to it because as things progress I'm sure you are going to hear A LOT more. The joys of pregnancy...LOL.

Brooke said...

yikes!

although i did accidentally say to someone "you are almost to retirement? you don't look that old. :|

happy sits day!

Sara said...

I am going to be the crabbiest pregnant lady. I will take full advantage of the "mood swings" because the second someone I don't know very well touches my stomach, I will rip off their hand.

You'd think other women that had been pregnant would be more sensitive but apparently they think they've got a free pass to say really odd things to you.

Good luck not punching people in the face!

Stereos and Souffles said...

The only thing that must be worse is after you've had the baby and people still ask after 6 months if you're pregnant, happened to two of my friends. Ugh. I felt so sorry for them.

Kathy @ Creative Home Expressions said...

Visiting from SITS.

Wait - just wait until you have the baby - the "advice" you get will make you want to bang your head on the nearest brick wall! I would start practicing the art of smiling while saying "thank you" now so you don't go insane later. : )

Rita/Fighting Off Frumpy said...

I found you via SITS and while I was reading this post, I was nodding my head in total agreement the whole time. I'm so there! I'm pregnant, too, due in September - and huge. (I'm one of those reallysuperbig pregnant women.) Still, that does NOT give people license to point that out, loudly, in public places ... I realize it already, thank you very much.

I usually don't post blog links in comments, but I JUST blogged about this exact topic not too long ago because it bugs me so much. Stop by if you'd like to. :)
http://www.fightingfrumpy.com/2009/07/weight-ing-for-baby-or-yes-i-know-im.html

roadrunner201 said...

You are dead on! I can not believe some of the things that people say to pregnant women. I mean, it's not like we're not hormonal enough. Throw a few insulting phrases our way!

The818 said...

Happy SITS day! I love your blog! I'm dealing with the same madness - it never ceases to amaze me what people will think they can get away with saying to you when you're pregnant.

Telling me my face is round or my "arms look a little chubby" is liable to get you smacked in the face!

I'll be checking back for sure!

daphne said...

well to me its like, you have a 50% chance of being right, why not take a shot..LOL

Amy said...

the joys of having a baby...

Girly Do's said...

I remember a very sweet old lady coming up to me on my first pregnancy and asking if she could feel how the baby was laying. "Sure" I guess... She then proceeded to twist my stomach and rub all over it and it was a great introduction to having my space totally invaded.

Something about pregnancy makes people feel like all the rules change don't they.

Happy Sits day.

Michelle said...

I guess once you get to your fourth pregnancy none of this bothers you. I actually LOOK FORWARD to the comments. LOL. But then I stay pregnant. LOL.

It'll get easier...

I think you look like you are carrying a girl, all that extra weight and all. KIDDING! Just kidding. This is the first time I've ever been to your blog and have not seen one picture of your belly or pregnant face.

Pink & Green Mama said...

LOL!! I got the same thing when I was pregnant with both of my daughters. Happy SITS day : )
Just wait till AFTER you have the baby and someone asks you when you're due...that. is. just. awesome.

Kara said...

Oh yes, I am all too familiar with tactless pregnancy comments. I got the "You are HUGE!" several times with my first son. Granted, I am only 5'2" and he weighed 10lbs 6oz, so I was huge, but still!

Smitten by Britain said...

Congrats on being the FB and on your pregnancy.

I'm so with you on this. What I hated was the faces and the comments I would get when I mentioned possible names. With my other pregnancies, I kept that information to myself.

TR Hughes said...

Good luck with the pregnancy. Happy SITS Day. You're use of fonts and colors is eye catching!

Mommy to those Special Ks said...

LOL Wait until you're pregnant with your 4th (not saying you're going to HAVE 4, but if you happen to like I did) people will tell you you're pregnant before you even know it! And that whole glowing thing??? I tell them that's just because I got done puking for 3 hours. It happens. :) Welcome to motherhood! haha

Ronnica said...

I think you've hit it: they just want to be involved.

Krafty Kristy said...

Happy SITS DAY!

I'm currently 31 weeks pregnant, my doctor is not happy with my weight gain. I personally think I look pregnant not overweight or even huge. But everyone I meet ask when are you Due and when I tell them I have almost 9 weeks yet they have the nerve to ask me if I'm have twins. I mean come on people.

Great Post

Katie said...

I don't understand the belly rubbing! I've had several friends of mine have babies, and all of them were amazed at the total strangers that would come up and rub their belly!

When you're pregnant, does your personal space suddenly disappear by the rules of society? I hope not, I will definitely have issues with that some day in the future when I have kids!

<3!
The Skinny On Getting Skinny

T~T said...

get used to it - people come out of the woodwork when you are pregnant!!

smile and nod honey smile and nod!

Morgan said...

I think it's mostly older ladies and perv men that make the most comments to preggers gals... or at least that's what I noticed while out shopping with my pregger friends. Still unacceptable!

Congrats on FB over at SITS!!!

Lamonica Epps said...

Stopping by from SITS. Congratulations on being the featured blogger. I didn't know people said such dumb things to pregnant women. If you can, try to ignore people's rude comments. Good luck with your pregnancy.

Jen said...

Yes ppl will say some weird things to you now that you are pregnant but you have the joy of removing your 'filter' and giving it right back because after all, you are pregnant and pregnant women can get away with anything. ;)

dddiva said...

LOL people think babies are public domain for some reason. Wait for all the talk once you have him - you won't be doing anything "right". Hahaha Listen to your own instincts and you will be fine.

Mimi said...

Yep it happens. Once you get bigger random people that you do not know will feel free to touch your stomach when you are just standing in grocery line.

I used to touch their stomachs back just to freak them out!

Little Miss Baker said...

Lucky duck :) Congrats on the baby and your SITS Day!!

Jessica said...

Pretty much like everyone else has said: It comes with being pregnant!

My neighbor, seeing me for the first time since I'd given birth a few weeks before, said, "Your face is back to normal now."

I had no idea it wasn't normal in the first place!

Maria @BOREDmommy said...

Stopping by from SITS! I think the weirdos come out when one gets pregnant. I've gotten those types of comments before when I was pregnant, and yes, they happened at church too! Its weird how people assume they can touch you when they find out you're pregnant. I hate that.

Traci said...

I had six church ladies at my house for dinner last night, trust me, they'll say anything.

Mary at My New 30 said...

I'm with Michelle - the comments didn't ever bother me, well unless I happened to be highly hormonal that particular day, which on occasion I truly was!! I was just happy to have people be as happy and excited as I was! Wanna touch my belly? Go ahead! Huge? Yep, you betcha!! I'm pretty sure it's all meant in an affectionate way in most cases and when it's not, who cares! Its a beautiful thing, knowing what is on the way.

sandy said...

Yikes, some people are just too rude!

Mary @ Parenthood said...

Happy SITS Day and congratulations on your pregnancy! When I was pregnant I had the same kind of experience. People say the darndest things, don't they?

Lisa said...

Happy SITS day!! Unfortunately, the "no mouth filter" people will only get worse. Wait until complete strangers start telling you how to raise your kids. Ohhh, so fun.

Reluctant Housewife said...

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

Pricilla said...

Happy SITS day.

The publicist kept putting up photos of me on the blog and calling me wide load so I can feel you pain...

Patrice said...

Stopping by from SITS... congrats on being featured! I love your style of blogging with all the colors & stuff, it makes it really fun to read!

Charmaine @ randalswife said...

When I was pregnant with my first, I got lot's of advice. I was really really sick and everyone had a different cure for morning sickness. My favorite: eat two baby carrots every morning. Seriously? So weird!

Janna Bee said...

Ugh, I've SO been there- people have no tact when it comes to a pregnant woman. It's like common decency flies out the window! And it's mostly women, most men know to keep their mouth shut about these types of things.

The Dapper Darling said...

Oh yeah...and it only gets worse! But eventually you get so big and proud you might even try to stick it out further :)

Susan Crabtree said...

people are so funny! congrats on being SITS featured blogger!

Holly Noelle @ Domestic Dork said...

When people touch your belly, you just touch them right back! lol Maybe they'll get the picture that when they touch YOUR belly they are NOT touching the baby they are touching YOU. Not that I'm OK with people touching babies w/o asking either. That gets me soooo angry.

Laura said...

I think a pregnant woman makes people turn into blubbering idiots who say whatever they want (without thinking first). When I was pregnant, my boss called me a hippo (lucky for him I wasn't hormonal at the time).

The Mom @ Babes in Hairland said...

Not cool - not at all. Everyone who's ever had a baby knows how it feels, so why do they keep making comments? No one wants to be reminded or told they are looking "bigger!" Thanks for the good laugh. Congrat's on FB today.

aforestfrolic said...

OH yeah, isn't it annoying, tee hee. My first was a big girl and I looked like I was carrying twins...but why did people have to ask, 'are you having twins?' Ummm, please let me offer that info, ahhhh.

Jamie :)
p.s. congrats!!

BrnEyedGal said...

LOL...
I totally know what you mean...what is it with people not thinking before they speak? How hilarious!!!
Ya know what is funny about my pregnancy...I actually liked people touching my belly...I think it was because I was so proud I had that baby in my tummy! LOL

This last month will go by so fast...Enjoy it! :)

Happy SITS day to ya...

BlogBaby said...

The good news is so far it sounds like people have refrained from discussing your boob growth so that's good, right?! ;)

Congrats on the impending little one and on your SITS day!

BlogBaby (Yup, a BABY who BLOGS!)

Pam said...

I hate to be the barer (bearer?) or bad news but... If you think it's bad now, just wait until your bundle of boy arrives! My advice... get some earplugs!

Robbie S. Redmon, LPC said...

Happy SITS Day!

Marrdy said...

An ultra sound is the only way to tell what gender your baby is (sometimes). I just think some people don't have any space rules. Your body is my body kind of thing. And when the baby is born you will be in for a surprise...grubby hands touching your baby!!

Christian Mommy Writer said...

For some reason, people think it is okay to say whatever while someone is pregnant. That, in addition to touching bellies. You would think that people would know better, right? Oh well. :-)

coco-ono said...

lol, I was sooo excited because I'm 17 weeks too and I love meeting people who are at the same stage of pregnancy as me. Then I realized this is a post from April... So I suppose you really ARE huge now. But don't worry, I'd never tell you that. I actually get the opposite from people. I'm really long waisted so my pregnancys take forever to show. People walk around telling me either how "tiny" I am, ask if Im eating enough/trying not to gain weight, or just say they hate me because THEY got soo big. Its still rude. Size (no matter WHAT size) should really be an off limit topic.

Collette@Jesuslovesmums said...

stopping by from SITS to wish you a Happy SITS day!
Congratulations on your pregnancy! Great to meet a fellow Christian.
Collette xxx

Sarah said...

I love this post! I will probably post stuff like this too when I get pregnant.

Happy SITS day!

Mel said...

Oh, I've had someone tell me recently that my face is starting to look fuller too.....yeah, it's just so nice to hear that someone thinks I'm gaining weight....LOL. Definitely not something someone should say out loud, especially in front of everyone and their brother!:)
Congratulations, and don't worry about it; enjoy every second!

Superjaxster said...

Happy SITS day! Oh the joys - what I have to look forward to. Sometimes the more I read the less I want to have children. lol.

Bentley Boutique said...

How funny! I hate to say it, but I was SO glad to be pregnant (after 5years of infertility treatment and 7 IVFs)that I loved every comment I received, even the "fat" ones. I wanted everyone in the world to share my pregnancy.

Kekibird said...

Congrats on the pregnancy and here to a healthy gestation and a quick labor! Yeah...the belly rubbing only works when you are full-belly out. Other than that, it's molestation due to it's proximity to my cooch.

Happy FB on SITS Day!

Teresha and Damon said...

HAPPY SITS Day!

Hang in there girlie! I just went through the same thing...the rude comments, the spatula hands trying to grope you, the unsolicited advice, the birth horror stories from women...I am so glad it's almost over. That's when the fun really starts. People will start making comments about your baby and wanting to touch your newborn with their filthy hands. ;-)

TheSingleGirl said...

Oh wow...it could've been ME writing this a few months ago.

The following is what I was told pretty much daily, while pregnant.
-I was definitely having a boy.
-I had dropped early and wasn't going to make it full term.
-I was huge and might be having twins.

All of the above were WRONG. Girl, baby never dropped and earned me and extra couple of hours of contractions to avoid a C-sec, and there's only 1 of her...I was measuring on the SMALL side.

*Backhanding random mouthy strangers in your honor*

Congratulations!!
:D
-Michelle
DomesticationOfTheSingleGirl.blogspot.com

Norine said...

You should consider yourself lucky that you really ARE pregnant! You could have an abdominal hernia and only LOOK pregnant!

Happy SITS Day!

Norine
Don't Put Lizards In Your Ears

Kristin said...

Happy SITS day! And seriously what is wrong with people? If I heard "are you sure you aren't having twins" one more time...

shortmama said...

Pregnancy definitely brings out the dumb in people sometimes LOL

The Laughing Idiot said...

First off, congratulations!

I hated to be told I looked so cute at eight months. News Flash, pregnant women don't feel cute and KNOW they are not so don't try to sugar coat it.

I'd like to tell you the comments and advice fall off eventually, but no, a baby seems to give people license to offer up all kinds of other unwanted comments.

OK, I'm done now. Again, congratulations!

Charlotte said...

The only thing anyone should say to a pregnant woman is you look gorgeous! Anything else is just asking for trouble.

twig said...

Happy SITS Day! Most people would be pretty nice, but then there were those people who would ask if they could touch my belly. Of course, I'd say "heck no!" and then they'd look at me as if I'd slapped them in the face.

Maybe it's just me, but I don't like strangers touching me ;)

Helen McGinn said...

Oh, the belly touching...*shiver* Congratulations and happy sits day!! x

Ms. B said...

Ok I totally cracked up at your post, and yeah I've never been pregnant myself but I totally have heard what you are talking about. Someone being pregnant should not be an excuse to say whatever you want to them.

xo

Jennifer
http://milliedeel.blogspot.com/

Tranquility said...

Hahaha! Oh, I am so sorry that people are being stupid. ;)

It's not really the same thing, but I went blond for a while and there must have been something in my new look that cried , "Spill It" because that's what everyone did. People would turn around in the grocery line and just start telling me about the problems in their life - and the blond hair was apparently an open invitation for all sorts of rude comments regarding my paleness or the strange color of my eyes, or whatever else happened to pop into people's minds.

Maybe sight of pregnancy and blond hair have a dissolving effect on the brain's filtering system.

Star Forbis said...

I can so relate, I carried twins to term, and from about 5 months on heard how huge I was!

Peyton said...

Happy SITS day! read my blog on my patients comments... it's just people in general... they are weird!
http://soontobestephens.blogspot.com/2009/07/top-3-therapy-moments-from-today.html

Hanneke Nelson said...

I remember those days... People are indeed really weird when you're pregnant. Scary, funny, and almost over. Hang in there. And Happy SITS Day!

Hanneke

shraddha said...

Happy SITS Day!

Michelle said...

Wheee. How fun for you. I'm impressed that you've kept your mouth shut -- or at least polite -- with people.

My personal favorite was when my husband looked over at me while we were out on a walk and did the "wow, you really have a huge rack" at four months pregnant. It DID NOT go over well. :)

clearlytangled said...

happy sits day!
your blog is hilarious. i feel your pain a little bit, even though i don't have kids- there has been a few occasions where people have thought i was pregnant... i was not happy.

Unknown Mami said...

Oh man this brings up memories! It's like your body stops belonging to you and becomes public property.

Hope you are having a great SITs day. Congratulations!!!

Lacey said...

Your my first SITS blog to comment on! I haven't been pregnant yet, but I hear similar comments from my mommy friends. I really wonder how I'm going to be. Hmmm...

Chandy said...

LOL People go nuts over pregos, they can't help it.

I vote for a girl... or a boy... or both! Oooopps. Ok, prego excited blooper there. You'd be such a cute mama!

Congrats again!

The Redhead Riter said...

You're gonna get bigggggggger!

LOL

But it is sooooo worth it!

Adrian's Crazy Life said...

That was funny, the person who said that to me the most was my HUSBAND! Almost every day he would say, wow you are getting huge, you are twice as big as you were last time and all kinds of stuff like that. I think sometimes he needs a filter between the brain and the mouth.

Misty said...

I hate it when people say the rudest things! Ugh!!!
Visiting you fro SITS

Joy said...

It's amazing the liberties people take when you're pregnant.

Belated congrats on your SITS day!

Jessica said...

I hate it when my hubby says: "Wow your boobs look BIG!" to me that means, are you gaining weight?

Happy SITS!

Jenn Calling Home said...

Wow, I think I have comment envy. And your post is hilarious. Happy SITs day to you!

Mama Mel said...

Let me just say, I totally agree with your feelings. I hated when people would comment on my pregnant body. I think the worst was when my cousin came to visit me when I was 9 months pregnant... I opened the door and he said, "Oh my gosh! You are HUGE!" (just like you said in your post). I rolled my eyes and said, "Thanks" very sarcastically... Duh... of course I was huge! I was about to have a baby... But I really don't need to hear that I'm huge... Not nice to hear for any reason...

Great post. Hope all is well. Happy belated SITS day! :)

Cindi @ Moomette's Magnificents said...

Happy SITS day!

Thanks for the memories - I remember those days and my girls are 22 & 26!


Enjoy it now!

Juliet Grossman said...

People are so audacious with their pregnant lady comments. It only gets worse when you have a baby then small child. You'll get dumb comments & "helpful hints" everywhere you go. Hey, at least you can blog about it!

Funny in my mind said...

Yeah, it gets worse but in the end, you get a cute baby and then you really start carrying! Too bad they can't say, oh you are much fuller in the boob area, I would have loved THAT one. Congrats!!

piecemeal people said...

I don't mind that sort of attention, really. Pregnancy is the only time where I feel I can waddle proudly.

Stopping by from SITS, albeit a little late!